The G spot
Unless you’ve been living without an internet connection and not watching porn for the last twenty years, you’re almost certain to have heard about the G spot, even if you don’t know how it operates in your woman’s body.
It’s an erogenous zone (and how often do you hear that wonderful expression used these days? An erogenous zone is just a part of the body which is particularly sensitive to sexual stimulation, in case you didn’t know that).
So, there’s this special erogenous zone inside the vagina – the G spot – which is able to produce very pleasurable and intense sexual and orgasmic feelings.
And science, good old science, has demonstrated every woman has a G spot, although in some women it seems to be very elusive. You know this? Either you have trouble locating its physical structure, or you can’t stimulate it in a way which produces pleasure in a woman, let alone makes her come…. damn those porno films! It looks so easy there…
But this is hardly surprising really, because for years even the medical profession didn’t accept there was such a thing as the G spot, so how can a poor woman (who was merely born with one) be sure there was such a thing either?!
The truth is that these days MRI scans have demonstrated every woman has a G spot, and every woman is therefore capable of different, enhanced or even more powerful orgasms with squirting or gushing as an optional extra!
If you’re not sure about your woman’s G spot, keep in mind that it just isn’t the same in all women, so you might find the descriptions you read on the Internet don’t apply to you or your partner.
Still want to try and find it? Look – no, feel – on the upper wall of the vagina as your woman lies on her back, anywhere from near the entrance to about 2 inches inside.
This area is either highly sensitive in its own right, or it lies over highly sensitive tissue, but in either case, touching it will produce feelings of sexual pleasure (or something!)
The sensations vary from woman to woman; for example, one description which has been used is something like a warm flushing feeling that moves deeply through the entire body.
Other women find it’s a kind of emotional experience rather than a physical experience. But it can certainly be a much deeper experience than she’ll get from stimulation of the clitoris alone, and the feelings do have an emotional component (as well as a sexual component) for many women.
The Female Prostate
The female prostate is another term for the G spot, the reason being that its tissue seems to be similar to that of the male prostate gland, and it can produce chemicals similar to those made by the male prostate.
Sure, there’s no reason for this fluid to be produced in woman, so you can regard this as the same sort of phenomenon as male nipples – they have no function in terms of child-rearing, but they just happen to be in the genes, just like the female prostate.
One interesting similarity between the male prostate and the female G spot is that when the G spot and prostate are stimulated by sexual arousal, they do produce a kind of fluid.
In a woman, this is unlike any other kind of fluid produced during clitoral stimulation (when you’d most likely experience vaginal lubrication).
Some women say they ejaculate a clear fluid and some women say they ejaculate a white milky fluid with an orgasm indueced by G Spot stimulation.
For Women – Coming To The G Spot
We’ll come onto that in another post. Here, we’d like to describe how a woman can find her G spot.
Lie on your back, and relax, making sure you will have time when you’re not going to be disturbed, time in which you can enjoy pleasuring yourself.
Bend your knees up, and spread your legs, so that your vagina is easily accessible. Locate your hand in front of your vagina with the palm facing up, and insert one or two fingers inside. As you do so, press them up against the upper vaginal wall an inch or two inside.
You’ll feel some spongy, ridged tissue, which may not necessarily feel like it’s going to give you any pleasurable sensations.
Gently massaging this area with plenty of lubricant, particularly when you’re fantasizing sexually, or sexually aroused, will likely produce a change in the texture as you get more aroused.
The texture of the area will change from ridged to smooth and full – this is engorgement with fluid due to sexual arousal. At some point you may find you suddenly have an urge to urinate – which is a sign you’ve found your G spot and you’re in the right place.
Some women think it feels as if they’re going to urinate, but this is a sensation which will pass quite quickly if you continue to stimulate your G spot. If you’re in any doubt about this, empty your bladder before starting your exploration.
As you continue stimulating the area, you’re going to probably find a different kind of sensation, more pleasurable, beginning to develop.
So now, experiment with different pressures, different forms of touch, different speeds of movement, and different types of movement, to see what happens.
If you’re on your own, there’s no reason to feel worried or inhibited about what’s going to happen (whatever that is) – if you can, simply decide that you can let yourself go, and enjoy an orgasm if it develops.
If you’re worried about producing fluid or squirting, then simply put some thick towels underneath you so there’s no danger of a mess in the bed.
And if you’re with a partner, and you’d like him (or her) to explore your G spot, a great way to start is to have him or her insert two well-lubed fingers inside your vagina and move them gently along the upper vaginally wall – and don’t forget, the more aroused you are, the more it’s going to swell, and the more obvious it will be….. so why not delay finger entry into the vagina, and his or her search for the elusive G spot, until you’re feeling some degree of sexual arousal?
Clitoral stimulation can arouse you sexually, until, at a certain point, a finger or two in your vagina will become beautifully pleasurable in combination with clitoral stimulation.
Of course a man who’s stimulating in this way has no way of knowing what feels good to you, so give him some feedback, and explaining to him how you’d like him to move his finger – in circles, from side to side, backwards and forwards, whatever.
But the important thing is that when he begins to do something which feels good to you, you should tell him to continue!
And you may wish to ask him to experiment with harder pressure – the G spot is tough enough, even though it feels soft and swollen!
In the next post we’re going to look at sex moves which can really help you enjoy G spot stimulation.